Megan Phelps-Roper grew up inside the Westboro Baptist Church in Topeka, Kansas — the group infamous for picketing funerals with signs declaring God's hatred. From the age of five, Megan stood on street corners holding signs. She was homeschooled within the church's ideology and taught that everyone outside their congregation was damned.
The Internet as Her Classroom
When Megan began using Twitter in 2009 to spread the church's message, something unexpected happened. People pushed back — but some of them did it with kindness. A Jewish web developer named David Abitbol engaged her with humour, patience, and genuine curiosity. He did not attack her. He asked questions. Other people from different backgrounds did the same.
The Slow Crumbling
These conversations became Megan's real education. She began reading perspectives she had never been allowed to encounter. She started seeing contradictions in the church's theology that she could not resolve. The process took years, and it was excruciating — leaving meant losing her entire family, her community, and the only identity she had ever known.
Walking Away
In November 2012, Megan and her sister Grace left Westboro. She has described the experience as both the most terrifying and the most freeing moment of her life. She went on to become an advocate for constructive dialogue across ideological divides, sharing her story in a TED Talk that has been viewed over ten million times.
What This Means for You
Megan's story is a reminder that education does not only happen in classrooms. Sometimes the most transformative learning happens when someone takes the time to talk to you like a human being, especially when they disagree with everything you believe. If you are in a school or community where the dominant voices are harsh — there are other voices out there. And they might change your life.
